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Mic.com: INTROVERT OR EXTROVERT? YOUR ANSWER MAY HOLD AN IMPORTANT CLUE TO YOUR BRAIN HEALTH

4/12/2022

“A strong social support network and consistent interactions with people is absolutely a protective factor for our cognitive health, so it makes some sense that extroverted people would experience lower rates of cognitive decline,” says Stefani Goerlich, a Detroit-based psychotherapist. “Likewise, people who are more conscientious in general are probably more conscientious about managing their health proactively- which again, will protect against cognitive decline,” Goerlich explains.

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Insider: How to practice tantric sex, a meditative form of intimacy that can improve relationships

4/6/2022

"The result of tantric practice is the creation of close bonds with one's partner, greater awareness of one's body, and the development of skills such as mindfulness, restraint, and communication."

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Cosmopolitan: Sexual Assault made me want to have sex more

2/4/2022

“Having the power to choose when and with whom to have sex, knowing that they can say stop and that request will be honored, can be a big part of the healing process for some survivors.”

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Beautiful+Machine magazine: Sex therapist stefani goerlich keeping in real

2/1/2022

"We all have fractures, we all have cracks. It might not always be sexual, but we have the shame, the guilt that we carry. My job is to hold space for my clients and to help them come to see themselves as worthy and deserving. And whole—just as they are”

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morning beat: are kids identifying as cats?

1/25/2022

Stefani talks furry culture and the stigma experienced by furry aficionados with Channel Q's A.J. and Mikalah.

Segment begins at 33:22

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O.School: Power Exchange: 3 Types Of BDSM Dynamics Explained

1/24/2022

There are three main types of power exchange and each exists on a spectrum.

Bondage and Discipline is an exchange of control‍
Dominance and submission is an exchange of authority‍
while Sadism and Masochism is an exchange of sensation

“Every individual and every partnership will negotiate their own specialized blend of these three that feels best for them- physically, emotionally, and relationally.”

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cosmopolitan: 38 dirty questions to ask your partner next date night

1/11/2022

"What do you think of when you masturbate? Asking this question gives you insight into what they focus on during partner sex too. Are they imagining a specific scenario? Are they concentrating on the physical sensations they're experiencing? Are they thinking about you?"

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psychotherapy.net: on becoming a kink affirming therapist

1/10/2022

" Kink-affirming practice is the understanding that kink is not just something that we need to know about. Most clinicians that I encounter will say that they are kink-aware. They know what BDSM stands for. They have a general understanding of the idea of kink. But that’s about where their knowledge ends. Kink-affirming practice understands that kink is its own distinct subculture, with strengths and resources and things that we can use in clinical work with our clients, and that we can leverage their kink identities in our treatment planning, in our intervention strategies, and really work with that in the same way that we would use any other aspect of our clients’ identities. So it’s taking it beyond “I understand this” and moving it into “This is a key part of your identity. And we are going to weave this into our work.”

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insider.com: 6 cozy cuddling positions to warm you up this winter — and the benefits of getting snuggly

1/6/2022

If you want to feel close to your partner but still want to have some personal space, try this position. Goerlich says focusing on these key touch points can foster a sense of mindfulness and closeness. Holding hands in and of itself results in benefits, too.

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Evolve your intimacy podcast: when BDSM goes Wrong

12/23/2021

Sex Therapist Stephanie Sigler, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and Fox, a Board Certified Intimacy, Relationship, and Sex Educator interview Dr. Stefani Goerlich about the differences between BDSM and Sexual Assault. Also what happens when BDSM goes wrong and turns into Sexual Assault?!

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