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“The world, the human world, is bound together not by protons and electrons, but by stories.”
– Brian Martin
The Bedtime Stories Lie
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Growing up you were told that everyone had their perfect person out there, and that once you found them, life would be easy. Turns out? That’s not true. The storytellers had good intentions. They wanted you to be hopeful, to believe in destiny. They wanted to give you a vision for what your relationship could be. But reality isn't always that easy.
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Locking Yourself Away Doesn’t Always Keep You Safe
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Your first instinct is to protect yourself from the pain. You’ve been vulnerable before and it left you feeling exposed, raw, and vulnerable. It got you hurt. You don’t talk about it. You don’t think about it. You feel trapped in a tower of your own making and you desperately want to break free.
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The Bed Can Still Be Uncomfortable, Even After You've Found the Pea
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It’s devastating to realize that love isn’t enough. You feel embarrassed. Ashamed. This was supposed to be the easy part. You wonder if there’s something wrong with you. Your relationship is great in so many other ways, but it’s not enough. You yearn for the intimacy that comes with deep trust and with physical connection.
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Sometimes, The Villain Is More Intriguing Than The Hero
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It can be scary to admit that you’re not interested in living out the fairy tale narrative you’ve been fed. You fear the judgement that would come if they knew what you really wanted, in your heart of hearts. You strain against the role they cast you in and wish they understood who you really are. You kinda like it in the dungeon, and you’re tired of what you crave being written off as bad. This story is more complex than heroes and villains.
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True Love's Kiss Doesn't Guarantee a Happy Ending
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Relationships fail. It’s possible to love someone deeply and also recognize that what they want for life is not what you need in yours. You began with kindness, with compassion, and with hope. You want to end the same way.
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