"Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow Podcast Episode 313: Kinky vs. Vanilla Navigating a Difference in Desires with Author and Therapist Stefani Goerlich. This was an epic discussion! She discussed how novelty inspires our brain’s arousal responses & we’d be bored if we were the carbon copy of our partners, She thinks hiding kinks is what leads to boring routine sex and dead bedrooms. She explained the scientific proof that kink can improve your life, increase the feel-good hormones in us, lower stress, increase closeness, and improve bonding. There have been actual scientific studies to prove this! She also addressed how to navigate differences in a relationship and how best to prevent contempt and shaming of a partner."