"Someone who is asexual might still form a romantic relationship with another person—they just don’t feel a need to express their romantic feelings through sexual intercourse or other sexual expressions..."
"So many of these seasonal movies show happy families gathering without animosity, trauma, or resentments," says Goerlich. For those who already feel frustrated or alone, the constant barrage of holiday happiness can exacerbate their sense of 'wrongness.'"
"“As far as bondage goes, I’d say that if you have a particularly ticklish submissive/bottom tinsel is your secret weapon! The fuzzy-garland style tinsel is strong enough to hold up against a moderate degree of struggle (be sure you use a proper single- or double-column tie to avoid cutting off circulation!) while also being ridiculously tickle-y. It’s a great way to enhance the sensory experience for your bottom while also keeping both of your hands-free for other uses,”
"“[It] can mean choosing to forego barrier contraception, such as condoms or dental dams. It can also mean committing certain sex toys that are porous and difficult to sanitize, such as leather floggers, certain types of stone dildos, to being used with only one person,”
"When it comes to being a loving partner or friend, Goerlich says it’s often best to “follow the survivor’s lead,” because someone who has survived a trauma has had their sense of control stripped from them."
"Women have only begun to find their political voice in the last century or so. We’ve had the right to vote in America for less than 100 years and were still considered legal extensions of our husbands up until the mid-1970s. When we do not have a platform to be heard within the realm of government, we find other ways to communicate exactly how we feel about those doing the governing. Using our bodies to make a political statement is a long-standing tradition, and when women today proclaim “Free the Nipple” or use their sexuality to push back on a culture that oppresses them, they are simply forming the next generation of a longtime tradition."
A Milwaukee native, Stefani Goerlich moved to Detroit 20 years ago and has since become a “die-hard Detroiter.” Before studying human service, social work, and sex therapy, Goerlich began her mental health care career as a victim advocate for sexual assault survivors, providing crisis intervention and advocacy for adults and kids. She primarily has worked with people impacted by trauma ranging from domestic violence and sexual assault to human trafficking. Her clients often come to her to work through self-image, gender dysphoria, LGBTQ+ needs, and polyamory and kink-affirming relationship counseling. “As a Jew, I am a big believer in the concept of Tikkun Olam, the repair of the world,” she says. “I have worked almost exclusively with folks impacted by trauma. Being present, bearing witness to suffering, and doing what I can to mitigate that pain is something I consider to be a life's calling.”
Location: Roseville Specialties: Open or polyamorous relationships, BDSM, and individuals with kinks and fetishes