Blog Posts - bound together counseling

Spy.com: A Single Person's Guide to Dating During Quarantine

5/18/2020

"Here’s the thing: the process for getting naked with someone dosn’t vary much between in-person and sext. The key is to slow down, take time to get to know one another as people first, and to build trust BEFORE you drop your pants."

Read the full article here:
https://spy.com/articles/lifestyle/relationships/how-to-date-during-quarantine-248682/amp/

Tripwire.com: Is Cyber Bullying Just Kids Being Mean On Social Media, Or Is There More To It?

5/3/2020

"Our natural inclination when we see another person in pain is to reach out and try and help. But it’s important to recognize the limits of what one can do, when talking to someone online. Mental health professionals spend a great deal of time learning how to properly assess the risk of self-harm, how to deescalate these situations, and how to proactively intervene for those most at risk."

Read the full article here:
https://www.tripwire.com/state-of-security/security-data-protection/cyber-bullying-kids-mean-social-media/

Mic.Com: Will I Be Scared of Going Outside Even After Coronavirus Is Over?

4/22/2020

“Most phobias are rooted in some traumatic precipitating event that is not processed in a healthy way, resulting in a lingering fear.”

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https://www.mic.com/p/will-i-be-scared-of-going-outside-even-after-coronavirus-is-over-22837020

Mic.com: Quarantine Doesn't Suck For Everyone, Apparently

4/19/2020

"For the first time in many of our lives, we have the opportunity to decide our values without the pressure of being watched."

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https://www.mic.com/p/quarantine-doesnt-suck-for-everyone-apparently-22827568

DomesticShelters.Org: When Your Partner Asks For An Open Relationship

4/15/2020

"Goerlich explains that one of the hallmarks of a healthy poly dynamic is that partners are allowed to have negative feelings and talk through them. “It’s okay to say, ‘I’m not comfortable with this partner,’ or ‘I’m jealous and I wish you could stay home tonight.’"

Read the full article here: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/relationships/when-your-partner-asks-for-an-open-relationship

PornHub: Your Kink's Not My Kink...But Is My Kink Okay?

2/28/2020

"...for the most part, the people asking me “Is my kink okay?” aren’t engaged in these types of activities. They’re simply people who are unsure of what counts as “healthy” sexuality. People who have been raised with limited sexual education or with a high degree of sexual shame. They’re Lyft drivers and attorneys, stay-at-home parents and fitness trainers, students and retirees. They’re average, every day, people…who happen to be into some statistically less-than-average sexual practices. So, how do we know if someone’s kink is okay?"

Read the full article here:
https://www.pornhub.com/sex/yknmkbyko/

What Do Your Sexual Fantasies Say About Your Mental Health?

2/2/2020

Ryan and Shira talk to Stefani about what our fantasies say about our mental health. Streaming here:

https://omny.fm/shows/let-s-go-there-with-shira-ryan/is-democracy-over

Mic.com: How to Stay Informed Without Feeling Hopeless

1/26/2020

“Sites dedicated to sharing the best of what's happening in the world right now are important resources. If you focus too much on the troublesome or overwhelming, it can start to feel like that's all that's happening.”

Read the full article here:
https://www.mic.com/p/how-to-stay-informed-without-feeling-hopeless-20515174

PornHub: Putting the "Roar" Back Into the Roaring Twenties.

1/24/2020

"I can’t help but believe that something has been lost, even as we discover ever more ways to indulge humanity’s desire for visual stimuli. If we’re not watching sex together, are we talking about sex together?"

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https://www.pornhub.com/sex/group-porn-viewing/

The New Yorker: A Reconsideration of Santa's Lap

12/19/2019

“Parental disappointment, peer pressure, and pleasing an authority figure—any one of those, for an adult, is a difficult situation,” Stefani Goerlich, a sex-and-relationship therapist who works with trauma survivors, including children, told me. “When you’re five, staring down the end of the line, and it’s almost your turn with Santa, you’re dealing with all three at once.”

Read the full article here:
https://www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/a-reconsideration-of-santas-lap