“Love is a meeting of two souls, fully accepting the dark and the light within each other,
bound by the courage to grow through struggle into bliss.”
– Author Unknown
Sex Should Be Fun
Remember your first kiss?
That nervous eagerness. The fumbling anticipation.
The giggles beforehand and the satisfaction that followed.
Do you remember when intimacy felt playful and exciting? Do you miss it?
That nervous eagerness. The fumbling anticipation.
The giggles beforehand and the satisfaction that followed.
Do you remember when intimacy felt playful and exciting? Do you miss it?
Many of the couples I work with first came to therapy because they recognized that sex had stopped being fun. Due to mismatched libidos, differences in what they desire, unhappiness with their bodies, or a change in their relationship that makes closeness feel complicated; they see sex not as something joyful to share together but as an obligation they must endure for the sake of their partner. The loss of physical and emotional intimacy can be incredibly damaging to a relationship.
Still others come to me because they've NEVER viewed sex as something pleasurable. There is something blocking this this for them: a particularly bad experience, a medical condition, a struggle within themselves. It prevents them from connecting with their partner, and sometimes with their own body, in ways that they find profoundly frustrating, unfair, or even painful. . |
Through frank, honest, and non-judgmental conversations about your sexual health, sexual expression, and relationship needs, we'll work together to help you reclaim your body and your sexuality. I'll offer specific tools, techniques and interventions that can help reframe your thoughts around intimacy, improve the quality of your sexual encounters, and overcome the barriers that keep you from experiencing the physical connection that you desire.
That said?
Some people just aren't wired for sex. They may prefer the intimate connections that come through deep conversation, inside jokes, and shared adventures. They may find the whole idea of sexual intercourse to be profoundly unappealing. There are no barriers holding them back from sexual expression- no medical diagnosis or underlying traumas. They simply aren't interested. THAT IS OKAY TOO.
My role is to help my clients move closer towards
the physical connection that they desire. |
Sex Therapy Should Never Feel Coercive
If you do not identify as a sexual being, if are content with your sexual self, or if you are simply uninterested in physical intimacy, please know that our work is not about changing you, or forcing you into any activity that does not interest you. My goal is always to help you and your partner create an intimate space that feels right for both of you, whatever form that takes.