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O.SCHOOL: POWER EXCHANGE: 3 TYPES OF BDSM DYNAMICS EXPLAINED

1/24/2022

There are three main types of power exchange and each exists on a spectrum.

Bondage and Discipline is an exchange of control‍
Dominance and submission is an exchange of authority‍
while Sadism and Masochism is an exchange of sensation

“Every individual and every partnership will negotiate their own specialized blend of these three that feels best for them- physically, emotionally, and relationally.”

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COSMOPOLITAN: 38 DIRTY QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR PARTNER NEXT DATE NIGHT

1/11/2022

"What do you think of when you masturbate? Asking this question gives you insight into what they focus on during partner sex too. Are they imagining a specific scenario? Are they concentrating on the physical sensations they're experiencing? Are they thinking about you?"

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PSYCHOTHERAPY.NET: ON BECOMING A KINK AFFIRMING THERAPIST

1/10/2022

"Kink-affirming practice is the understanding that kink is not just something that we need to know about. Most clinicians that I encounter will say that they are kink-aware. They know what BDSM stands for. They have a general understanding of the idea of kink. But that’s about where their knowledge ends. Kink-affirming practice understands that kink is its own distinct subculture, with strengths and resources and things that we can use in clinical work with our clients, and that we can leverage their kink identities in our treatment planning, in our intervention strategies, and really work with that in the same way that we would use any other aspect of our clients’ identities. So it’s taking it beyond “I understand this” and moving it into “This is a key part of your identity. And we are going to weave this into our work.”

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INSIDER.COM: 6 COZY CUDDLING POSITIONS TO WARM YOU UP THIS WINTER — AND THE BENEFITS OF GETTING SNUGGLY

1/6/2022

If you want to feel close to your partner but still want to have some personal space, try this position. Goerlich says focusing on these key touch points can foster a sense of mindfulness and closeness. Holding hands in and of itself results in benefits, too.

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EVOLVE YOUR INTIMACY PODCAST: WHEN BDSM GOES WRONG

12/23/2021

Sex Therapist Stephanie Sigler, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and Fox, a Board Certified Intimacy, Relationship, and Sex Educator interview Dr. Stefani Goerlich about the differences between BDSM and Sexual Assault. Also what happens when BDSM goes wrong and turns into Sexual Assault?!

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COSMOPOLITAN.COM: SUPER BOWL SEX POSITIONS

12/15/2021

“In the same way that the teams on the field scrimmage and tackle, gain yards and lose them, you can wrestle and run, pin down or wriggle free, or hunt and escape.”

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MIC.COM: WHY YOUR THERAPIST MIGHT HAVE TO DUMP YOU

10/12/2021

"Sometimes something comes up after we’ve been working with someone for a while, and we realize that while we’ve been exactly what they’ve needed until then, they now require someone with a different set of skills or training,”

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BINGEDAILY: MILLENNIALS ARE LOOKING TO DATE PEOPLE WHO AREN'T ON SOCIAL MEDIA!

9/15/2021

“People who make this decision may be seen as iconoclastic and exceptionally self-confident since they are choosing to forego the instant gratification of upvotes, likes, and gif reactions. People are recognizing that the internet is a false reality — even when we fill it up with snapshots of our actual, day to day realities.”

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MENS HEALTH: HERE'S EVERYTHING TO KNOW ABOUT ADULT BREASTFEEDING AND EROTIC LACTATION

8/16/2021

“If you are able to understand yourself and know why this appeals to you, then you can explain it to your partner in a non-threatening way,” Goerlich says. “Starting from a place of curiosity and knowing what your goal is makes it easier to sell any kink or fetish.”

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NU? DETROIT: THE PROSPECTS FOR POLYAMORY

7/15/2021

"Bringing new people into our lives — whether as friends, new family or something more intimate — should always be a choice grounded in love and a desire to be loving ... never as a means to address a lack of fulfillment where you are."

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